Lesson #1: Relationship

     There's a popular saying that goes: "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". To put it simply, this means that when people, be it friends, lovers, or family, are apart, they long for each other more, thus improving their relationship.

     But unmentioned in the saying, the opposite is also true. As absence improve relationships, presence, more often than not, ruins it. I'm not saying that presence always destroys relationships. However, too much of it has a pretty good chance of doing so.

     The best way to maintain or to improve a relationship is to balance things. A good balance is not necessarily equal. The balance will depend on the type of relationship.

     As I am currently single, I don't want to give my input on marriage. However, I can give my insights on friendship.

     Based on my experience, in a friendship between two people, there is usually at least one aggressive person. Most friendships are created and maintained because at least one of the people in consideration is under the aggressive type. The aggressive type is the one who is doing something for the friendship to improve or remain. Most likely, the aggressive type is the one who talked to the other or took the initiative to make friends with the other person. The opposite of the aggressive type falls under the category passive type.

     I suggest you find out what type your friendship falls under and the roles of each member of the group.

All-aggressive= All of the people in the group fall under the aggressive type.
Most-aggressive= Most of the people in the group fall under the aggressive type.
Some-aggresive = Some of the people in the group fall under the aggressive type.
All-passive= All of the people in the group fall under the passive type.

     Logically, most friendships are composed of all-aggressive or most-aggressive. There are also a good number of friendships under the some-aggressive category. All-passive friendships are hard to find. However, if the people in the group of all-passive see each other as their best friends, this is the type that is easy to maintain.

     As aggressive type people usually start the friendship, they are the ones likely to destroy it as well. This is especially so if the aggressive type is friends with a passive type. The aggressive-passive friendship will last only if the aggressive type gives the passive type enough space, as passive types are usually uncomfortable if they don't have enough space.

      Therefore, in order to maintain or improve your friendship, these are my suggestions:

All-aggressive Friendship:
     Basically, these are the types that go for their impulses. They like spending time with another and will often go out to malls or other places. This type of friendship will probably last if they find something they like in common. If they're a big group, they could split their group according to their likes and do what they feel like doing.

Most-aggressive Friendship:
     This is also similar to all-aggressive friendship. However, passive types will often be left out of the activities of the group. It is best not to force the passive types to do what they don't want to do or they will feel unliberated.

Some-aggressive Friendship:
     If there are only two of you, be sure to give the passive type enough space as he/she wants, or he/she will feel uneasy with the aggressive type. This usually leads to a one-sided friendship.
     If there are more than two, there is less problems. However, if the aggressive type keeps on forcing the passive types to do things, the aggressive type is in a risk of being the less-liked person of the group.

All-passive Friendship:
     This friendship, like I mentioned earlier, is easy to maintain. They are often free to do whatever each one wants to do as there is no one who tells the others what to do. If the friendship is real, the people in the group often find comfort with each other. The absence of the others is usually enough to balance out the presence.
     Though this type of friendship may feel dull, this type of friendship has an unseen beauty in it. My suggestion for this type is simply to keep it up.

That's all for lesson 1. If you have any questions or clarifications, feel free to ask away.

The Beginning

This post is merely a celebration of the birth of my new blog. Basically, I will post my beliefs, lessons in life, or anything I feel that can help others in their lives.

That's quite a long introduction, isn't it?
Well, without further ado, I will begin with the first lesson.